I was recently called a Know-It-All, at first I was offended. I'm not a Know-It-All, I do share my experiences and try to help people with my stories, however I am open to learn and grown. I don't consider myself a know-it-all but a work in progress. Then I got thinking, maybe I do come across that way. By the time, I share a story or give my opinion/advise, I have thought it through. I sometimes shoot from the hip but most of the time, I'm deliberate with my words. I think and choose my words as wisely as possible. I'm confident in what I believe as I share. That doesn't mean, I'm not opening and willing to learn a different way, maybe even a better way.
The definition of a know-it-all - a person who acts as though he or she knows everything and who dismisses the opinions, comments, or suggestions of others. I can honestly say, this is not me.I want to make a difference in peoples lives by inspiring with the life I have lived. The ups and downs and never giving up. I don't dismiss the opinions, comments or suggestions of others but I covet them. I want to know what others think and how they would handle a situation. I consider others, I don't dismiss them. I believe in this life we will never stop learning. We will never have so much knowledge or wisdom that we can't afford to learn more.
I am confident which can get misinterpreted as know-it-all. I believe in my own abilities. I'm self-confident and a bold speaker. I have strong beliefs and I do hold onto my Faith. These are things I'm not ashamed of. It has taken me a lifetime to believe in myself. In the past I've listened to people who put me down, belittled me and talked down to me. Once I blocked them out, and began believing what the Bible says, I knew that I'm someone special. When I grew my own relationship with my savior and stopped listening to out-side voices, that is when I believed in me. The words of others can be condemning, mean and confusing. But when you search your heart and follow "Your Heart" then do you find true peace and happiness.
You will know them by their fruits. Matthew 7:15-20 (NKJV)
15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. 16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? 17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them.
I've had people in my life that are Know-It-All, they've told me their opinions and let me know that they only speak God's Word. If I didn't do as they said, I was being worldly and not listening to God. They had me so confused and my mind was a mess. I now can see those people were not bearing good fruit. They spoke condescendingly to me. However, as much as they pushed they were only speaking God's Word, they pushed me away from God. Their words dripped with distain for me, and that is on another level of gossip and bitterness, which again is not good fruit.
Do some tell you they "believe" you are making bad choices and doing wrong? Are they condemning and condescending? Have they ever taken the time to know the real you? My advise is to take a step back and check out their fruits . . . Do they bare good fruits? Are they showing you love? Real love? Not the do as I say and if you don't you're wrong, love. But Real, Unconditional, I don't care what you say or do I still honestly love you, Love. I may not agree with you but I still love you, Love. If there is not unconditional love there, it is not a good fruit. If it is only stirring up contention and stiff in your life, that is not good fruit.
Bitterness and condemnation is not good fruit. The drive to be right is not what should motivate anyone. You have to follow your heart and trust your Faith. Keep your heart pure, soft and playable. It's when you heart is hardened and you are no longer open to being lead by hope, faith and love, and the greatest of these is love . . . then you should worry about being a Know-It-All.
I am confident! I am Bold! I am a Believer! But I don't need to be a Know-It-All to make myself feel better about anything. I want to consider others and their beliefs, opinions, cultures, their differences. Condemnation is only hurting someone else by my words of distain and that is not me. Nor do I believe it is how to show love. It is not the way to help someone. I don't believe I can change anyone, nor do I believe I have the right to change anyone. I've said it many times and will continue to say it. I am called to Love you where you are. And that is exactly what I will do.